Welcome back!! Happy 3rd of October!

If you know me personally or simply follow me on twitter then you probably know I cry alot. No, I’m not depressed or just sad all the time; I just happen to enjoy this form of cathartic release.

Contrary to popular opinion, crying shouldn’t just be an indicator that someone isn’t okay. Someone crying doesn’t instantly mean that they are sad, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, etc. Bottom line, crying is very natural and should not be associated solely with the negative connotations of one having and experiencing their feelings.

My friends used to love to tell me that I’m a weirdo for being so okay and willing to cry because “it’s just not normal.” Well, I have two questions to that statement:

1. HA! What is normal?
2. When have you ever known me to do or be anything close to normal?

Unlike most people in my life, I’m not afraid of crying (except around other people because I’m such an ugly crier its crazy), and I cry at the smallest things. Like so many others, growing up, I fought against all urges to cry because I didn’t want to be perceived as “weak” or “too emotional for my own good.” After growing up and working through that societal b.s., I realized that having real emotional strength is knowing that it’s okay to just let it go and release the water works. In doing so, my emotional well being and mental health drastically increased. 23 year old me will take any and every healthy opportunity to have a good cry.

In that regard, here are some of my favorite cathartic release cry sessions suggestions:

1. Watch the Hallmark Channel or Lifetime if you’re feeling murdery

2. Watch a video of babies or animals doing really cute or dumb things

3. Put on a good childhood throwback movie that always puts you in your feels! My personal fav is Monster’s Inc.

4. Get in the shower, channel your inner Tobias and let it all out. (The sound of the shower should cover the sounds of your tears)

5. My personal fav:

• a. Light some candles, light some incense, burn some sage, turn on your diffuser or wax warmer (whichever works for you)

• b. Turn on a good playlist, album, artist, or song that will guarantee have you on the verge or full blown crying [my go-to is “Can U Help Me” – Usher or “On & On” – Erykah Badu
• Let it all out – good and bad. Cry until you feel satisfied and complete.

6. If religious, pray, sincerely and vulnerably.

So, try out one of the 6. If you have or find a better method feel free to let me know in the comments section below!

Well, that’s literally all I have to sat. I hope that this has helped you in some way, shape, or form. If not, let’s see what next week brings forth.

I hope you all laughed as much as I did writing this!

As always,

Keep living, loving, and laughing.

ALBUM OF THE WEEK: Matter of Time – EP by TizzyJay